4th June 2018
If you have been watching BBC One’s new legal drama The Split, you are no doubt wondering whether the series is an accurate reflection of what happens when a relationship comes to an end and a couple decide to divorce. Is the process always acrimonious? Are high-pressured meetings involving both parties and their lawyers the norm? Is every case destined for court?
Whilst every family is unique, and there are no hard and fast rules, a divorce does not have to be characterised by conflict. A good family solicitor will encourage you to focus on the needs of the whole family (and in particular, the best interests of the children) and will help you explore whether it is possible to reach an amicable agreement as to things such as what will happen in relation to money and your home.
If you have reached the sad conclusion that your marriage is at an end, then the first step will usually be to contact a solicitor who specialises in family law. You may already have someone in mind based on a recommendation from a friend or family member, or possibly from your own previous experience. Otherwise, details of family lawyers can be found at www.resolution.co.uk.
Alternative dispute resolution
One of the first things that a solicitor will discuss with you are the various options that are available when you get divorced, in order to resolve the ancillary issue of what should happen in relation to your finances. Whilst going to court is one option, it is not most people’s first choice as it can be a costly, time consuming and daunting process.
One option which many couples are familiar with is mediation. The mediator is neutral and cannot advise either party or impose an outcome upon them. Instead, their role is to help facilitate discussions in order for mutually agreeable solutions to hopefully be reached.
A further option is collaborative law. Here both parties’ solicitors are present and discussions take place by way of ‘four way meetings’. Other professionals such as independent financial advisors or child specialists can also attend the meeting(s) as required to provide specialist input.
A third possible option is arbitration. This most closely resembles the court process, in that the parties appoint an arbitrator to make a decision which will be binding upon them. Before doing so, the arbitrator will consider the evidence and each party will have the opportunity to ‘have their say’. Arbitration provides a quicker outcome than going to court, and is also more flexible. You can, for example, ask the arbitrator to adjudicate in relation to all aspects of the case, or alternatively just the issues that you are stuck on.
In the case of each of the above processes, once an agreement is reached or an arbitral award is made, the settlement should be drawn up into a court order and submitted to the Family Court for approval by a judge. This is a paper exercise which is overseen by solicitors, and there is no need for the parties to attend a formal hearing.
If you are unable to agree on financial matters, or if your spouse is failing to engage, then your solicitor will discuss with you the merits of making an application to court. Court proceedings may also be necessary if disclosure is likely to be an issue, i.e. if it appears that your spouse is trying to hide money or property. The benefit of applying to court is that matters will be set to a tightly controlled timetable which both parties should comply with. In contrast, without a court timetable discussions can often reach an impasse, and cases can remain in the negotiation stage for months or even years without reaching resolution.
Upon receiving a financial application, the court will list the matter for a series of three possible hearings:
The fact that an application has been made to court does not prevent you from reaching an agreement with your spouse, and it is open for you to do so at any stage in the process prior to the judge making a final order. You will be encouraged by your solicitor, and also by the judge, to reach an agreement where possible (although not at the expense of a fair settlement) as this will help keep stress and expense to a minimum.
Whichever route you choose to pursue, be it mediation, litigation or ‘out of court negotiations’, the Family team at Mundays is fully experienced and able to provide specialist assistance.
The contents of this update are intended as guidance for readers. It can be no substitute for specific advice. Consequently we cannot accept responsibility for this information, errors or matters affected by subsequent changes in the law, or the content of any website referred to in this update. © Mundays LLP 2018.
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